Why does it seem like you face an interpersonal challenge with a team member every single day?
Many (maybe most) of our daily interactions involve problem-solving, conflict, disagreements – right?
Yet, with most people, you have significantly more in common than you will EVER have in differences! [Tweet That!]
Stop and think for a moment – think of your most challenging colleague. Now, think about all of the areas where you agree .
If this is difficult at first, start small. Then, move on to bigger, more substantive things.
If you’re brave enough to be honest, no matter how difficult the person is, you’ll really only come up with differences in a few areas.
Then why do these differences derail team momentum so often?
Because some teams work on the wrong things.
Some teams work on making sure nobody’s feelings get hurt rather than alignment through transparent dialogue. Some teams work on damage control instead of leading strategically through change.
Some teams resist and react to new ideas instead of experimenting and innovating. Some teams want to dictate rather than collaborate.
Some team members are content earning a paycheck while others are transforming a community and the marketplace. Some teams give up rather than push on until they reach a breakthrough.
Some teams keep people guessing while others clarify and communicate vision. Some teams foster the status quo while others are repulsed by it.
Your team needs a leader that is willing to show the way – a leader willing to grow, a leader willing to serve, a leader willing to speak up, a leader willing to acknowledge a mistake, a leader willing to set aside petty differences and focus on commonality.
Andrew Jackson, our seventh president, once said, “One man, with courage, is a majority.” He became a national hero for his courage winning the battle of New Orleans in the War of 1812 despite being severely outnumbered.
Today is the day! It’s the day you get moving again. It’s the day you decide you’re going to serve rather than be served. It’s the day you forgive. It’s the day you speak up. It’s the day you set aside differences and focus on everything in the world that you have in common.
Question: Why do you think we focus on differences most of the time? Share your experiences in the comments.